The Womb Police
Break free from society's expectations! Embrace your unique path to happiness beyond the 'Womb Police' standards
This month is my birthday month. Every year I go all out for my Birthday. I don’t just celebrate on the day itself I celebrate for the whole month. I am always super grateful for another year and for the blessings that has been stowed upon me. Growing up I was told to keep well clear of Men and I did for most part. I earned a degree and gained a successful career and side hustle. As I enter another year of my thirties being single and childless the comments intensify. The womb police are out and I constantly hear comments like “ don’t wait too long”, “ your eggs are now considered as Geriatric”, “ the older you get the harder it is to get pregnant”, “ patiently waiting to be an Aunt”and the comments go on and on. I can probably write a book with all the comments. Most of the time I laugh it off or I go quiet and don’t respond. I know the individuals making these comments don’t mean any ill intent but it still hurts.
If you are part of the womb police today is your day to stop!!. Its not helpful, its not encouraging. your actions are actually quite hurtful. It makes me feel that I am not complete until I produce a fruit from my womb and become someones wife. My question is who set the standards that you have not accomplished until your a wife and a mother. I’m here to change the narrative that you can be single and feel complete. You can be single and happy. Marriage and motherhood shouldn’t be the only narrative in life. No matter how successful I am in business, career , relationships and life in general there is stigma that I have not achieved, I’m lonely and depressed. News alert!!! This is quite the opposite.
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There are so much positive to being single and childfree . I enjoy being the Aunty that buys the noisy toys, the fun Aunty that takes my nieces and nephews out for day trips and are able to return them. I emphasise the return part that’s the important part. The Aunty who brings back souvenir from her travel adventures. The Aunty that spoils my nieces and nephews on their Birthdays and Christmas. I embrace the season that I’m in and quite frankly I deserve to without feeling guilty or scrutinised.
Whenever my relationship status changes or I am pregnant I will announce it with joy. Until then the comments, the shade and the questions needs to stop. Women should be allowed to just live and enjoy life without feeling pressurised. Celebrate your achievements, whether you're a wife, a mother, or anything in between!. Don't let anyone dictate your worth based on their limited standards. My encouragement is too challenge the people in your life that are Womb Police. I know the idea of doing this can be scary but Sis you can do it.
Articulate yourself like the baddie you are. Unless you communicate and let them know the effect their actions are having on you they will just continue.
If you have been a victim of the Womb Police how did you handle the situation, how did it make you feel?. Please share any tips and wisdom you may have. If you are a reformed Womb Police please comment. We love you and would love to hear from you.
Another enjoyable read. Hopefully the womb watchers/womb police get to see this and change their ways. It's a genuine wonder as to why society seems so unnaturally curious and invested in the lives/business of others. Every stage of life has both wins and challenges...it's a shame the womb police never mention that! 😂